Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Zach's Math Awards

Yesterday the school that Zach attends, Sun Path Elementary, held an awards day. Our Zachary was right up there at the top of the awards list. His mother says that not only did he win a certificate for scoring well on his Continental Math League tests, he also was awarded a medal for getting the highest score of all the third graders in his school.


http://www.4shared.com/file/109597106/7eadf5f9/Zachs_Math_Awards.html

Zach's Mom and Dad said how proud they are of him, and Jill added that she loved being his Mom. I have to add that being his Grandma is a pretty good thing as well.

Way to go, Zach!!!

Monday, June 1, 2009

Maddie's New Glasses

There has been a rash of nearsightedness in our family of late. First Boston found that she could see much better with glasses than without. Zach joined the ranks of grandchildren with glasses next. And just this past month, Maddie Mae was fitted for her new glasses. She picked them out all by herself. And did a fine job of it, too. You were beautiful before you got your glasses, Maddie, and you are beautiful now.




http://www.4shared.com/file/109274428/1d6859a0/Maddies_New_Glasses.html


I got a phone call the evening Maddie got her new glasses. I love getting phone calls telling me of new and wondrous things that happen to my grandchildren. "I can see the clouds, Grandma," she told me, "and I can see the leaves, too!" It was like a whole new world opened up to her, and she was enjoying it fully.

I wish I could have passed on something besides bad eyes to my grandchildren, but the consolation is that they all look so very good wearing their new glasses.

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

My Grandma Matheny

My Grandma Matheny was an amazing woman. Of course, I didn't realize this until I was a grown woman raising a family of my own. When I was a child, she was just Grandma, a sweet little old lady who lived on a farm in northern Minnesota and who loved me, her granddaughter.



Rachel Alzora Olmstead was born September 8, 1870 in Jackson County, Indiana to Alonzo Olmstead and Rebecca Welch Olmstead. As a young girl, Allie, as she was known all her life, moved with her family from Indiana to Minnesota, traveling in a covered wagon. The family settled in Eden Lake Township in Meeker County where her father farmed for a living. In the late 1890's, Allie met Clifford Alton Matheny, who was working as a farm hand, and on December 1, 1897 they were married at Darwin in Meeker County. After their marriage, Cliff and Allie settled on a rented farm north of Eden Valley where their first four children were born; Lois in 1898, Ronald in 1900 and their first set of twins, Veda and Vera in 1902.




In the early 1900's, Cliff heard the rumors of the vast pine forests in northern Minnesota, near Bemidji and Blackduck, and of opportunities for settlers to open new farm lands and do logging. He decided that he could make a better living for his family there, so he, his brother Harley, his brother-in-law Lester Kirkpatrick and Lester's brother Alva, made the journey in a mule drawn bobsled they had made for hauling supplies and to sleep in while traveling. There were no main roads as such at that time, so they followed Indian trails, logging roads or made their own trails, and crossed Leech Lake on the ice. Cliff worked loading timber onto railroad flatcars the rest of that winter, and in the spring, after building a barn on the land he was homesteading near Blackduck, he returned south by train to get household goods, farm equipment and cattle to bring north. Allie and the children joined him later after Cliff had built a log house on his property, and they all moved to their new home in 1904. It was there that their children, Clarice, in 1908, Bruce in 1910 and my Dad, Ralph, in 1911, were born. In 1906, Allie traveled back to Meeker County by train for the birth of their second set of twins, Keith and Kenneth. Cliff and Allie were to live on this land the rest of their lives.

Some time after 1911, a larger house was built for the family. Dad told me that the new house was built right around the old log house, tearing down the old house as the new one went up. It is this house that I remember from when I was a child. I never knew my Grandpa Matheny, as he died 10 years before I was born, but I have vivid memories of Grandma and her farm home, where my family would go to visit as often as was possible.




Life in Grandma's house seemed to center on her kitchen. It was a large room and the first one we came into when entering her home. There was no running water, and water was hauled in buckets from a hand pump located outside near the door. There was a small stool by the back door that held a white enamel bucket and a dipper. It was kept full of fresh water from the pump, and if I wanted a drink, I just dipped water from the bucket and drank from the dipper. People must have been tougher then, not worrying about germs as we do now. I don't recall hearing of anyone getting sick from sharing the water dipper. That was the best tasting water I have had, before or since.

On one wall sat a huge black cast iron wood burning cook stove. One side of the stove held a firebox where wood was burned to heat the stove. The rest of the top was flat and kettles were put there for cooking. There was a large oven that Grandma used for baking and roasting. She didn't go to the store for bread, but made her own, baking many loaves each week to feed her family of nine children. Dad told me that on cold winter mornings, he would get up early, coming downstairs to the kitchen, and usually finding his mother sitting on the open, heavy oven door warming herself while the stove heated up for cooking breakfast. He said that it was his habit as a small boy, to crawl up into her lap and sit there with her in the warmth of the kitchen. He said that he continued to sit with her even, in his words, when he was probably too big a boy to be sitting in her lap. I can understand his reluctance to give up this practice, for, as just a wee girl, I remember sneaking downstairs and finding Grandma, still in her robe and slippers, her hair in a long braid down her back, sitting on the oven door. Sitting there on her lap gave me a feeling of being loved that has never been equaled.

One summer when I lived in northern Minnesota, I took some blueberries that I had picked over to Dad and Mom's house near Funkley. We were talking about the blueberries that I had already canned that summer, and Dad said that he bet it was easier for me than for his family. When he was a boy, his Dad and brothers would load the heavy kitchen stove onto a wagon, along with wooden boxes full of canning jars and all of the equipment needed for canning. Then the family would go to a huge blueberry patch they knew of about a day's drive away in a horse drawn wagon, where they would set up camp and pick blueberries. His mother would fire up the stove, and can the blueberries right there in the wagon bed. They camped out and picked blueberries until she had enough canned to last the winter.

On the other side of the kitchen was an icebox. It was about the size of a small refrigerator, made of wood, with a large door on top and a smaller door on the bottom. The inside was lined with tin, and the top held food to be kept cold, while the bottom held blocks of ice to keep the icebox cold. Dad told me that in the winter, his Dad would hitch up a team of horses to a hay wagon, and he and his Dad and brothers would drive the team over to North Twin Lake. There, they would chop a hole in the ice and, using saws, would saw through the ice, making large blocks of ice. These were loaded onto the wagon, and when the wagon was full, they would drive the team back to the farm and unload the ice blocks, stacking them in a root cellar dug into the side of a small hill near the house, packing straw around them to keep them from thawing out when the weather turned warm. They cut enough blocks of ice to last until the following winter. When a block of ice in the icebox would thaw, they would drain the water, go out to the root cellar and bring in another block of ice.

Grandma kept a large vegetable garden, growing and canning the vegetables to feed her family. I think this was when Dad learned to enjoy gardening. He said that his Mother taught him a love of growing things, which he passed on to me. That, and the fact that this was time he could spend with his Mother made a chore enjoyable.

I remember Grandma Matheny as a quiet woman. I don't think I ever heard her raise her voice, although I am sure that she must have at one time or another while raising a family of nine children. The entire clan would gather at her home now and then for an occasion like Christmas or her birthday, and she would sit, quietly smiling at the antics of her grown children and grandchildren. There was always love and laughter at these times, and her children were prone to teasing and joking with each other. My memories of her are of an old woman, and thinking about it, I guess she was well into her seventies when I was born. She was a short lady who wore her long hair in a bun on top of her head, and was usually dressed in a housedress, apron and slippers. That is the picture I have in my mind when I think of her.



http://www.4shared.com/file/104980342/a88a9038/Grandma_Matheny.html

Allie Matheny was an amazing woman. She raised her family on very little money, working hard to provide for their everyday needs. She sewed her daughter’s dresses, patched her son's overalls, and washed them on a washboard in a tin tub. Although when I was young, her house did have electricity, she had none of the modern conveniences. She kept chickens, hauled water, and did all of the chores required of a pioneer wife. And she did it all efficiently and without complaint. I don't think I could have coped nearly as well.

I wish I had had my Grandma longer. She died peacefully on May 16, 1955, and was laid to rest beside her husband, who died in 1936, in the Lakeview Cemetery in Blackduck, just down the hill from where my parents now rest. Even though I was only nearly 10 years old when she died, I still have many warm memories of this sweet lady who was my Grandma. And I still miss her after all these years.

Monday, April 13, 2009

I Am a Slacker

This blog has been badly neglected of late. I suppose that if I put my mind to it, I could come up with a selection of good excuses, but there just aren't any. Yes, work has been busy. Yes, I have been spring cleaning. Yes, I have other projects that I have been working on. But yes, I have also spent time on my computer without posting anything new. So there you have it. I am a slacker.


So to make up for my laziness, I have over this past weekend scrapped various and assorted photos that have come to me lately. I hope that the kids enjoy them.


Maddie has a friend named Tabby. David tells me that this photo was taken on one of their walks around their neighborhood, and Maddie was taking her friend for a ride in the little car that the girls have. Looks like they are having a good time on their drive.



This photo arrived in my email box with the explanation from David that he had fixed Boston's hair before school, and wanting to know if it looked alright, he took photos and sent them to Staci, who was already at work. I think he did a pretty good job of it.




I love this photo of Jacob. He is doing what kids are supposed to do. Playing. And he seems to be doing it well and having fun.




Here is another photo that I stole from Jill's Facebook page. Zach is in a chess club at school, and he won this silver medal in "Grandmasters of Chess." I am so proud of you, Zach. Way to go!! He is eight years old and wins medals playing chess. I am 62 years old and have never been able to figure out the game. Guess he takes after his parents on this one, not his grandmother. I usually claim genes from the Mathey side of the family when one of my grandkids does something good. Guess I can't this time.




Boston and Maddie are taking dance classes this year. Boston called me to tell me to mark a date on my calendar because that is when there will be a dance recital. It is in June, and I have it duly noted. These are photos of Boston in her dance costumes, and I can hardly wait to see her dance wearing them.


So now I have hopefully redeemed myself and can shed the "slacker" title. There are many more photos to scrapbook, and I am working on them. No excuses. Stay tuned.

Monday, March 23, 2009

Granddaughters Keep Life Interesting

A short while ago I got a phone call from David. During the course of our conversation he told me that Staci had taken the girls shopping. Boston wanted a new outfit to wear. She found exactly what she was looking for. Picked it out all by herself. Pretty glamorous is our Boston. She did a good job of shopping for clothes, and looked pretty snazzy going off to school.






Some time passed, and I emailed David this evening, telling him that I had the scrapbook page of Boston in her new outfit all ready to put on the blog, but needed one of Maddie doing something special. After all, Grandma can't put up a photo of one sister without putting up one of the other. That's just the way it works.


Soon after, I received these photos of Maddie along with the following explanation from her Dad:


"Here is Maddie doing her mopping chore and on the phone calling 911. Yep. That’s right. I received a call from the sheriffs office and they asked what our emergency was. I said there was no emergency. I then asked the girls and Maddie said she called 911. No in particular reason for calling them. She just thought it would be neat."


I'm guessing that Maddie now knows the difference between a real emergency and "neat."

Monday, March 9, 2009

Zach's New Glasses

Zachary has joined the ranks of grandkids who wear glasses. He got his a couple of weeks ago, and I think they look pretty spiffy. Spiffy is a word from my Father's generation, which has since been replaced with the word "Cool." But I like "Spiffy." My kids used to say that things looked pretty "Spinorty." I think they made that word up, but I'm not sure. At any rate, Zach looks good in his new glasses. His mother tells me that he says he has gotten used to wearing them already, and that is good. It usually takes a little time before one is not constantly aware of new glasses on one's face, so Zach is ahead of the game.




The rest of these photos are ones that I stole from Jill's Facebook pages. I am not sure of the stories behind them, but I enjoy looking at them. Jill now lets me know when she adds more photos, telling me that they are there for me to swipe. Her Aunt Janet has gotten in on the act as well, letting me know that she would be posting some photos this evening, so now I will have more to steal. Such fun. One can never, ever have too many family photos. Even if one has to steal them!








http://www.4shared.com/file/91964156/5a399a92/Zachs_New_Glasses.html

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Zachary

I haven't had many photos of Zach for a while, and when I found that Jill had posted some on Facebook, I stole them. Yup, snagged those photos as fast as I could download them. I confessed my crime to her a couple of days later, and she assured me that it was quite alright for me to download them. Kinda took the fun out of it, making it legal and all. But nonetheless, I now have Zach photos.

I have been making scrapbook pages using these photos. Haven't had time lately to use them all, but here are the ones I have finished. I am not sure when some of these were taken, but I sure do like them.


Jill tells me that the look on Zach's face in this photo reflects his displeasure with his golf score.


These photos were taken in February, 2008, while on vacation in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico. Jill says that it was her Dad's idea for Zach and his cousin, Bennett, to swim with the dolphins. He had called her several times and asked her to look at the website to see if it was something the kids would enjoy. Zach wasn't too sure about the whole thing to begin with, but he ended up loving it. The boys didn't actually swim with the dolphins, but they learned how to make them jump, got pulled by the dolphins on a raft, and got a dolphin kiss. Looks like they were really having a good time.


So, Jill, be forewarned. You post Zach's photos on Facebook, I'm gonna get 'em.

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Boston's New Glasses

Our Boston got her new glasses this week. Her Dad shared the pictures with me. She looks so nice in them, and I am really glad that she likes wearing them. Maddie was beginning to feel a little bit left out in the picture taking, so her Dad took some pictures of her wearing her sunglasses.







I am not surprised that one of my grandchildren needs help to see clearly. Weak eyes run in my family. All of my children got glasses at relatively young ages. My siblings and I all wear glasses. So did my parents. I would not be surprised if eventually all of my grandkids will need them.


When Boston's uncle Duane got his first glasses, he promptly lost them. I believe he might have lost the second pair as well. It wasn't until a few years ago that he told me that he lost those glasses by digging a hole in a flower bed and burying them. Kids can be pretty inventive when they don't want to do something, like wear glasses.


I remember when I got my first pair. I was in the third grade of elementary school. My teacher alerted my parents to the fact that I was having trouble reading what was written on the blackboard, so off to the eye doctor I went. I can still remember walking out of that office the day I got my new glasses to discover that trees weren't just a trunk with a big green blur at the top. There were individual leaves that made up the green part of the trees, and I could see each one. Flowers were not blobs of color, but had petals and were different one from another. I could read street signs and numbers on license plates on the cars. Amazing. I think that it was so much fun for me to be able to read a book without having to hold it inches from my nose to see the words, that I have never minded wearing glasses.


So enjoy your new specs, Boston. Not only are they a fashion statement, but there is a whole big, beautiful world out there, and you can see it all now.

Sunday, February 8, 2009

Tooth Fairy

My phone rang one evening last week. Boston was calling to let Grandma know that she had lost another tooth. Her third one. It fell out at school and Grandpa Kreig had already given her a dollar, but she thought that the Tooth Fairy would come that night anyway. I assured her that Grandpa's dollar was a bonus, and that the Tooth Fairy wouldn't forget about her. She told me to be sure to check my email, as her Dad had taken a picture and he was going to send it to me. He did, and here it is.




Along with that picture were a few more that David thought I would enjoy. He was right.

The girls love to have their pictures taken. Bring out the camera and their faces light up and the smiles appear. The bonus of that for me is I get lots of pictures of smiling grandkids. I rarely have a bad day. But once in a while one sneaks up on me. At those times, all I need to do is scroll through my folder of smiling grandkid pictures, and my world is bright and happy again. Perfect.




I particularly love this picture of Staci reading to Jacob. How lucky he is to have parents who read to him. I hope they continue to do so and instill in him a love of reading. Many times I have lost the better part of a day engrossed in a good book. That is not time wasted. It is time spent with interesting people in interesting places doing interesting things, be they real, as in biographies, or fictional, like the mystery stories I enjoy. It is my hope that my grandkids will come to love reading about new people, places and adventures, as I do.



Monday, February 2, 2009

Warning! Cute Grandkid Photos Ahead

My email has brought some more cute grandkid photos from David. If the rest of you want your cute kid photos, or any other photos here, get busy. I can't post them if I don't have them.



David says that these photos represent a day in the life of his kids. It seems that first, the girls wanted to play "camping out." So they set up the tent indoors and pretended to be on a camping trip. Got the little one involved in the game as well.



Later on they all went outdoors to play. Dad had bought a new play-toy, and the kids wanted to go for a ride. So they took some pictures, and off they went. David says they had lots of fun riding on the new snowmobile.



Boston made a snowman out in the yard, and it looks like she did a pretty good job of it. I hope she got her mittens back from him before her little fingers got too cold.






Boston called Grandma Kreig to tell her about her day. Get used to this pose, Mom and Dad. You will be seeing it a lot when she gets a bit older. My mother always told me that she thought the telephone receiver was just part of my face, for several years.




Back inside, Jacob was doing what Jacob does best - going places he shouldn't be going. The gate on the stairs to the basement keeps him somewhat corralled. I wonder how long it will take before he learns the secret to opening the gate.



http://www.4shared.com/file/83811804/d306da44/warning_-_cute_grandkid_photos.html


I love to get pictures. Although the ones of special occasions are great, the pictures of what my grandkids are doing on a daily basis are so much fun for me. I can't be there to join in, but I feel as though I am included when I see what they are up to. Thank you, kids, for sharing your day with me.


Love,

Grandma

Saturday, January 31, 2009

Laughter


The older I get the more I find myself laughing at the absurdities of life. I have to laugh. If I took everything that comes my way seriously, I would be in sad shape. So I laugh.

Part of my job is using a blow dryer to dry the fur of the dogs I bathe. Those of you who have visited me at work know that there is a grooming table set up in the back room next to the bathtub. I find that kneeling next to the table is easier on my back than bending over to dry underbellies and legs, especially smaller dogs like Toy Poodles and Dachshunds. Getting down on my knees is not the problem. The getting back up can be interesting. The picture I get of myself hauling this old, overweight body back up to my feet is a silly picture. Now I could bemoan the fact that limbs do not work as well as they did 20 years ago. I could. Or I could rant about the fact that my figure has become pretty much barrel shaped as opposed to hourglass shaped. Could do that, too. But I laugh at myself. Silly old woman, thinking that a crane would come in really handy to get me upright again. That picture makes me laugh.

As I have looked through my collection of family photos, I have realized that humor has been a big part of my life. I found this picture of my Dad. He had taken his family on a vacation to the Black Hills. At one of the tourist trap places we stopped, he found this make-believe saloon. Now Dad wasn't a drinker. If he had any tendencies in that direction, Mother quickly squelched them. I have suspected over the years that he may have had a taste of something alcoholic when he went deer hunting and stayed with one of his brothers up north. Especially since my cousin Curt was famous for his homemade wine, and those visiting were offered "just a taste." Could never prove it, but the suspicion was there. That aside, I never saw my Dad drink anything stronger than coffee. So when he found this saloon, he couldn't resist the temptation to lean against the door, pretending to have had a few too many.



This picture has been in my parents photo collection for over 50 years. It is a rather unflattering photo of Mom's sister, Margaret. It has moved with my family from St. Paul, where it was taken, to Willmar, on to Funkley, Blackduck and finally to Kelliher, where I acquired it in a box of photos that Dad gave me. I once asked Dad about it, and here is what he told me.
It seems that Dad and my Mom's sisters loved to tease and joke with each other. Margaret, being Margaret, could not resist the temptation to tease Dad about something long since forgotten. And Dad, being Dad, could not let her teasing go by without adding a smart remark of his own. Then Margaret chose this method of showing what she thought of Dad's remark, and that is when Dad took her picture. And this is why we have a family heirloom photo of Aunt Margaret's Opinion. Dad added that he had kept the photo all of these years because it reminded him of the fun they had with their teasing and joking



There was never anything mean about their teasing and joking, as the second photo shows. This one was taken outside the nursing home in Blackduck where Mom was living at the time, and Margaret and Melfred had come for a visit. It is probably my favorite photo of Dad and Margaret.




I love this photo of my sister. This was taken in the first apartment my family lived in when we first moved to Willmar. Sunday mornings our family always attended church. This particular Sunday, Libby was full of spots from chicken pox. So Mother left Dad in charge of her while she took me to church.

Now those of you who remember my Dad know that this was a situation that was ripe for him to do something.....didn't know what.....just something. And this photo is the result of the "something" he came up with. Nobody knew what he had been up to, entertaining my sister that Sunday morning, until the pictures came back from the developer. The moral of the story, according to my Mother, was "Never leave Dad alone with time on his hands. He surely will find some mischief to get into."




It was long my Dad's habit to look for wildflowers when he was out and about, and to pick a few for my mother. She always acted like Dad was a hero for bringing her flowers. I believe he may have been pushing his luck on this one, though.




And I can't laugh at others in my family without laughing at myself. While going through my boxes of photos looking for one that Jill asked me for, I found these. If I ever begin to have a swelled head over anything, these old school photos would bring me right back down to earth in a heartbeat. When I receive school photos of my grandchildren, they are usually beautiful. The photographer obviously takes the time to pose each child, using backgrounds and props to enhance each photo. We, on the other hand, were stood against a blank screen or wall, sort of like a mug shot without the ruler to tell how tall a person was and the card with numbers held across the chest. The photo was snapped, the child whisked away and the next one in line took his or her place for their mug shot. I'm guessing that my parents weren't happy that they had to fork over cash for these.




The last photo of me was taken in 1954, on the steps of the old Lincoln Elementary School in Willmar. It was used in a Father's Day gift project for Brownie Scouts. I love the fashion statement. Way back then, when dinosaurs roamed the earth at will, girls weren't allowed to wear jeans or slacks to school. The rule was skirts or dresses only. So our mothers, ever practical, made us wear pants under our dresses to keep our legs warm - in this case, homemade corduroy pants. I guess it was OK, though. As a little girl, my knees were forever skinned up from play, and the pants covered the ever present scabs.


I am glad that my children have inherited the humor gene. I would hate to think that they would go through life without laughter. Every now and then one of them will call, telling me about the latest antics of their kids, or something funny that happened. When Jeri was in Middle School, she would call me nearly every day and tell me the joke of the day. My favorite was "Little Bunny Foo Foo," but that is a story for another time. Duane has asked me to email him mornings on my days off, letting him know that I am alive and well. I love his replies, as he usually says something silly to make me laugh. That's a great way to start a day. David calls regularly and nearly always has something to tell me about what his crew of kids has been up to. At those times, I have been known to outright giggle. And when I talk with Jill, she nearly always has something to tell me about what Zach has said or done that brings a smile to my face, if not a good old belly laugh. I love it.
I have dealt with people over the years who have lost, if they ever had it, the capacity for laughter. They tend to be grumpy old men or women, whose faces would surely crack if they ever smiled. How these people make it through this crazy, silly life, is beyond me. I realize that there are situations that need to be taken seriously, and that is as it should be. But the rest of the time, when life throws something at a person where they can either laugh or cry, I believe I will choose laughter. It really is the best medicine of all.

Friday, January 23, 2009

Happy 1st Birthday, Jacob

Last Sunday our family celebrated another milestone. Our Jacob is one year old.

How fast this past year has flown by. Seems like just the day before yesterday that I was holding this little baby in my arms, and now he is a whole year older. He spends his time walking, discovering new things, smiling a lot and getting into mischief, just as he is supposed to do. The mischief part is his job. He does that for me. I love it when his father calls me and tells me something new that Jacob has gotten into. Takes me back to hauling his father out of many things that he wasn't supposed to get into, either.

Again the family gathered and it was such a nice day. David made lasagna for all (pretty good, too), and we ate and enjoyed each other's company. Some I hadn't seen for quite some time, and it was good to visit and get caught up on the news.

Boston and Maddie, who are taking dance classes now, wanted to show off their new found talents. So some grandparents went to their room for a short recital. How fun to watch them leap and twirl. The exuberance of children their ages is wonderful. I hope they never lose that zest for life.



We went to the family room for the birthday present opening. Jacob did a fine job of ripping wrapping paper and trying out new toys. He had some help from his sisters, and it looked like he was enjoying every minute of it. I think he really likes this birthday present thing. Probably will want to do it again next year.





There was birthday cake waiting in the kitchen, and it was such fun to watch Jacob's reaction. He was sitting in his highchair when his mother approached him with his own cake with one candle on the top. Jacob's face lit up like someone had turned on the switch to a powerful light. His eyes fairly sparkled. As he hasn't quite got the blowing out the candle thing down just yet, the girls helped him with that part, and then he dug into his cake. Both hands. Smearing frosting. Having a grand time.

http://www.4shared.com/file/82162226/234475be/Jacobs_1st_birthday.html

The rest of us enjoyed cake, eaten with forks (why we adults aren't allowed to have as much fun with cake as Jacob did, I just don't know), ice cream and coffee. We talked of many things and the conversation was good.

As I sat at the table, I thought of how lucky Jacob is to have three grandmothers, one grandfather and one great-grandmother, all of whom love him so very much. I also thought of his two grandpas who weren't here to enjoy the party. But perhaps they were. I can't imagine that either would want to miss it. I like to believe that both were watching from Heaven and enjoying the party as much as the rest of us.

Happy Birthday, Jacob.

Love, Grandma


Thursday, January 22, 2009

Inez

This Sunday past I had the privilege of spending time with a woman who has been an important part of my life for over 50 years. She is the Grandmother of my children, and Great-grandma to my grandchildren.

I first met Inez when my family moved to the farm when I was nine years old. Our house had once been part of the Eddy farm, and Dad had purchased it from an Eddy relative who had lived there. I became friends with her daughter Joan, and spent time playing at her house as a child. She always, over the course of those 50 odd years, made me feel welcome.

I remember from those years on the farm, what a hard working woman she was - and still is. She always was busy, raising her five children, keeping a neat and clean house, feeding the men in her life who worked the land, often during spring planting time and fall harvest, making their meals and carrying them out to the fields so they didn't have to take the time to come to the house to eat.

She kept a huge vegetable garden that was located between our house and hers, and I often, during the summer, would see her out hoeing or pulling weeds. In the fall, she canned the vegetables, made jams and jellies and pickles to feed her family over the long Minnesota winters.

Her youngest daughter was born while the family still lived on the farm. I remember walking in the kitchen door of her house just days before the birth of Jeanine, to see to my amazement, Inez up on a step ladder, washing the kitchen ceiling. Preceding the births of my children, all I wanted to do was lay in bed like a lump, and this picture of her on that ladder so close to her time to deliver, has remained with me ever since.

When I married her oldest son in 1964, she became like a mother to me. There was never a time that I couldn't stop by her house and feel welcome. She has always been interested in what her grandchildren are doing, and always kept a jar of her wonderful chocolate chip cookies ready for visits from them. She would laugh when the kids would go, even as toddlers, right to the cupboard where she kept her cookie jar and say, "Cookie, Grandma."

Even when her son and I parted ways, she remained an important part of my life. Whenever I see her, even after all of these years, I am always greeted with a hug. When Mike and I were living in Arizona for a short time, we went to see her at an RV park where she and Henry, after he retired, would spend their winters. After Henry died, she and her friend Sylvia would make the trip there to spend the winters away from the snow and cold. On that occasion, I was greeted with the same love and hugs that I have enjoyed all these years. She treated Mike with the same affection, and he thought the world of her.

She started taking Senior bus trips all over the country. Whenever I would see her at a family gathering, she would tell me about her latest trip. It just tickled me to see her doing something that brought her so much enjoyment, especially after working so hard all of her life.

The kids tell me that she still lives alone in her house in Willmar...the one where she and Henry moved at his retirement from the farm. She keeps her own house, mows her own lawn, and takes care of herself at age 92. David told me that he had stopped several times to see her when his job took him through Willmar, but he rarely would find her at home. She goes out every day, having a schedule that would make me tired...seeing friends and keeping active.







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On Sunday we talked of times past. I reminded her of a cocker spaniel the family had when I was a kid, named Taffy. Taffy had a litter of puppies, and Henry kept one of them. This pup had a habit of getting excited when he would see me, shaking his behind back and forth, looking like a Hula dancer. Henry had given him a name that I have long since forgotten, but I called the pup "Hula." One day Henry told me to stop calling the dog "Hula," as the pup wouldn't respond to his real name. He acted mad about it, but the twinkle in his eye gave him away. Inez laughed at the memory, and said she thought that the name I chose was a good one.
We talked of memories from life on the farm, of good neighbors who had passed on and those who were still in the area. We talked of Grandchildren and Great-grandchildren, and how busy they all are. She wanted to know all about my brother and sister, and what they all were doing now.
We even talked of lutefisk. She still makes it at Christmas time, although she says there are only a few who will eat it. She enjoyed it during the holidays, but always made another meat dish for the rest of us. Years ago, when she told me that she has one kettle that is used for nothing but lutefisk, I decided then and there that I was not brave enough to eat something that needed it's own cooking kettle. She still laughs at me for my cowardice. I will, however, given the opportunity, dive into a dish of her baked creamed corn that she made as well each holiday season, or sit up and beg for one of her chocolate chip cookies.
Inez is an amazing woman. She has lost her husband to cancer, as she has her oldest daughter. Her oldest son died a little over a year ago. And after all of this heartache, she remained more concerned about how I am coping with my loss than her own.
When it was time to leave after Jacob's birthday party, we seemed to postpone our parting as long as possible. It was with happiness at seeing her again mixed with regret that we see each other so seldom, that I gave her a final hug and told her how much I love her, and she responded in kind.
I am forever grateful that Inez has been a part of my life for so many years. I am blessed.

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Christmas With Mom

Every year my children plan a get-together with me at Christmas time. It is something I look forward to each holiday season.

This year I spent Christmas Eve with Duane, Kathy and Kathy's daughter's family. It was especially fun for me as I had not before had the opportunity to see Duane and Kathy's apartment in Gaylord. They have such a nice place - cozy and homey. We went from there to spend the evening with Kathy's daughter, son-in-law and two grandkids, two pooches and assorted cats. My kind of place. They made me feel right at home. There was enough food for a decent sized army, and we ate until we couldn't any more, and then moved on to open gifts. After that, we talked and ate some more and just enjoyed being together. When we were ready to go back to Duane and Kathy's place, there were hugs all around and when Kathy's daughter told me that I was welcome there any time, I knew that she meant it. Duane drove me home the following day. I so enjoyed my time with them.




The next Sunday afternoon we gathered at David and Staci's home for our annual Christmas get-together. It is always so much fun to be with my children and grandchildren, and that day was no exception.

The small kids and grownup kids spent time playing the new Wii game that David's kids had received for Christmas. There was much bantering about who was going to beat who and how badly they were going to be beaten in bowling. Jeri's friend Jon was with us for the first time, and I knew he fit right in when he teased Chris that he was going to call all of Chris's friends and tell them that Chris's six year old girl cousin had beaten him in bowling. Chris did redeem himself and went on to win some games.

David fixed a wonderful ham dinner and there were goodies galore. Everyone brought something to add to the meal as is our custom when we all meet like this. If anyone went away hungry, it was their own fault.

After dinner, we went to open gifts. It is so much fun to watch the kids open their presents. Jacob had tried really hard to get a head start on the present thing before dinner, crawling towards the tree a few times, but we managed to head him off at the pass and he had to wait like the rest. Soon the family room floor was a sea of wrapping paper and ribbons. The grandkids liked the quilts I had made for them. They were the secret surprises mentioned in a previous post. They seemed to generate a few extra hugs and kisses for Grandma, and that was worth every hour spent making them.







It is a funny thing...sewing quilts. Not "ha ha hee hee" funny, but perhaps sort of "odd" funny. There is a lot of time alone with one's thoughts while sewing. As I am not a huge fan of TV, I didn't have that distraction while working, but often had music playing. I found myself thinking about each child as I sewed together the pieces of that person's quilt. I thought about how the fabrics of one quilt suited the bubbly personality of one child. And how the grownup patterns in other fabrics were just right for one teetering on the edge of becoming an adult. The girly prints served to remind me of the similarities between these two little granddaughters and my own daughters when they were of the same ages. One of the boy's quilts got me thinking about that child's outlook on life that often tickles my funny bone, and how he has gone from being very shy with me to being outgoing and so loving. The baby's quilt conjured pictures of a ready smile mixed with a little sadness that soon he will no longer be a baby. One tends to lump these children all together under the heading of "Grandkids." But each is his or her own person with a unique personality. As I thought of each individual child, I could see traits of their parents as well as traits of mine and of their grandpa in each one. I am truly blessed as a grandma to have these children for my grandkids.

After pie and coffee and a little more conversation, it was time for the drive home. As we were getting ready to leave, David remarked to me that it was so nice that nobody had to rush off right away and how good it was to set and relax and talk. I know that most of you think that I tend to live in the past, talking as I do about times when I was young. I don't really live there...I just have fond memories of times when life moved at a slower pace than now. But as Christmas get-togethers go, this one comes really close to those that live in my memory.